Sister Wives

SERIES: Flaw LESS by Faith: Walking into The Decade of Destiny


Aim: All of us have flaws!  We are not perfect!  We are not flawless – meaning we do not have flaws.  But we are flaw less – by faith.  After studying this lesson students will see that we have flaws,  including our relatives, and husbands.  Everyone have flaws but by faith we can overcome flaws and walk into our decade of destiny.

Genesis 29:15-29 (NLT)

15  Laban said to him, “You shouldn’t work for me without pay just because we are relatives. Tell me how much your wages should be.”

16  Now Laban had two daughters. The older daughter was named Leah, and the younger one was Rachel.

17  There was no sparkle in Leah’s eyes, but Rachel had a beautiful figure and a lovely face.

18  Since Jacob was in love with Rachel, he told her father, “I’ll work for you for seven years if you’ll give me Rachel, your younger daughter, as my wife.”

19  “Agreed!” Laban replied. “I’d rather give her to you than to anyone else. Stay and work with me.”

20  So Jacob worked seven years to pay for Rachel. But his love for her was so strong that it seemed to him but a few days.

21  Finally, the time came for him to marry her. “I have fulfilled my agreement,” Jacob said to Laban. “Now give me my wife so I can sleep with her.”

22  So Laban invited everyone in the neighborhood and prepared a wedding feast.

23  But that night, when it was dark, Laban took Leah to Jacob, and he slept with her.

24  (Laban had given Leah a servant, Zilpah, to be her maid.)

25  But when Jacob woke up in the morning—it was Leah! “What have you done to me?” Jacob raged at Laban. “I worked seven years for Rachel! Why have you tricked me?” 

26  “It’s not our custom here to marry off a younger daughter ahead of the firstborn,” Laban replied.

27  “But wait until the bridal week is over; then we’ll give you Rachel, too—provided you promise to work another seven years for me.”

I. Dysfunctional Family

A. Two Dads

  1. Laban – Deceiver
  • Father of Leah and Rachel
  • Uncle of Jacob
  • Brother of Rebekah – Jacob’s mother
  • Deceived Jacob into working for him for 14 years without pay
  • Deceived Jacob into wedding both of his daughters

2. Jacob – Deceiver

  • Son of Isaac
  • Jacob was naturally crafty and deceitful.
  • He practiced deception upon his blind father.
  • He told a deliberate lie in order to obtain his brother’s spiritual blessing.

B. Two Daughters

  1. Leah – The oldest – Name means weary or wearied
  • Unloved
  • Unwanted
  • Unattractive
  • Was weak (tender) eyed – lacked the luster

2. Rachel – The youngest

  • She was naturally beautiful
  • She was divinely guided
  • She was deeply loved

Rachel is hot, Leah is not

II. The Deceiver is Deceived

  • He discovered that his uncle is just as cunning as he is!
  • He learned that you reap what you sow

Job 4:8 (AMP) – “As I have seen, those who plow wickedness And those who sow trouble and harm harvest it.

Jeremiah 12:13 (NIV) – They will sow wheat but reap thorns; they will wear themselves out but gain nothing. They will bear the shame of their harvest because of the Lord’s fierce anger.”

Galatians 6:7 (NLT) – Don’t be misled—you cannot mock the justice of God. You will always harvest what you plant.

Psalm 7:15-16 (NLT)15 They dig a deep pit to trap others,  then fall into it themselves. 16 The trouble they make for others backfires on them. The violence they plan falls on their own heads.

III. The Drama After

  • OMG!  It’s not Rachel – it’s Leah!

Point to Ponder:  If you were Leah, how would you feel the morning after?  What was your feelings the day before or the night before?

Point to Ponder:  If you were Rachel, how would you feel to see your sister marrying the man that you are supposed to be wedded to?

Point to Ponder:  Many people feel that Leah should have spoken up. . .what do you think?  What about Rachel. . .why didn’t she speak up? 

31  When the Lord saw that Leah was not loved, he enabled her to conceive, but Rachel remained childless.

32  Leah became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She named him Reuben, for she said, “It is because the Lord has seen my misery. Surely my husband will love me now.”

33  She conceived again, and when she gave birth to a son she said, “Because the Lord heard that I am not loved, he gave me this one too.” So she named him Simeon.

34  Again she conceived, and when she gave birth to a son she said, “Now at last my husband will become attached to me, because I have borne him three sons.” So he was named Levi. 

35  She conceived again, and when she gave birth to a son she said, “This time I will praise the Lord.” So she named him Judah. Then she stopped having children.

IV. The Divine Intervention  

The LORD saw Leah’s distress. . .she was not loved by her husband. . .and she gave birth to sons

  • Leah gave birth to sons. . .
  • The first son is Reuben – “behold a son”
  • The second son is Simeon – “heard”
  • The third son is Levi – “joined to”
  • The fourth son is Judah – “Praised” 
  • Rachel remained childless

Genesis 30 (GNT)

1    But Rachel had not borne Jacob any children, and so she became jealous of her sister and said to Jacob, “Give me children, or I will die.”

2    Jacob became angry with Rachel and said, “I can’t take the place of God. He is the one who keeps you from having children.” 

3    She said, “Here is my slave Bilhah; sleep with her, so that she can have a child for me. In this way I can become a mother through her.”

4    So she gave Bilhah to her husband, and he had intercourse with her.

5    Bilhah became pregnant and bore Jacob a son.

6    Rachel said, “God has judged in my favor. He has heard my prayer and has given me a son”; so she named him Dan.

7    Bilhah became pregnant again and bore Jacob a second son.

8    Rachel said, “I have fought a hard fight with my sister, but I have won”; so she named him Naphtali.

9    When Leah realized that she had stopped having children, she gave her slave Zilpah to Jacob as his wife.

10  Then Zilpah bore Jacob a son.

11  Leah said, “I have been lucky”; so she named him Gad.

12  Zilpah bore Jacob another son,

13  and Leah said, “How happy I am! Now women will call me happy”; so she named him Asher.

V. The Disturbing Reaction

  • Jealousy
  • Sister against sister
  • Infighting

Progress in the Journey. . .

Several weeks ago, Pastor preached “Making Sense of God’s Will.”  For us to really get the meaning of today’s lesson we need to use his format and it will bring us a deeper understanding.  Observe. . .

VI. Discerning (Making Sense of) God’s Will

  • Perfect will – Jacob marry Rachel
  • Permissive will – Jacob marries Leah
  • Prevailing will –
  • God sees that Leah is unloved and blesses Leah and she becomes the mother of Judah through the tribe which Jesus will come!
  • God does not forget Rachel and she becomes the mother of Joseph who will be prominent in the history of Israel.

Matthew 1 (NLT)1 This is a record of the ancestors of Jesus the Messiah, a descendant of David and of Abraham: 2 Abraham was the father of Isaac. Isaac was the father of Jacob. Jacob was the father of Judah and his brothers.

Luke 3:34 (NLT) – Judah was the son of Jacob. Jacob was the son of Isaac. Isaac was the son of Abraham.

PRAYER PRINCIPLE:                   Thank God that no matter what our plight in life He is ready, willing and able to provide for us for our good and His glory.

SOCIAL JUSTICE PRINCIPLE:       Share with others the need to pray, be patient and remain obedient to God’s plans for our lives no matter how difficult things may get or seem to become.

EVANGELISM PRINCIPLE:           Remind those who have forgotten and let others know that Christ took the burden of our sins upon Him for us to live victoriously through Him.

STEWARDSHIP PRINCIPLE:           Our giving allows us to be of assistance to those in need.

DISCIPLESHIP PRINCIPLE:              Although things seem to be difficult or just out right unfair, God has a plan to for us to endure for His glory and our good.

NEXT WEEK’S TITLE: Let Go and Let God!

SERIES:           Flaw LESS by Faith

NEXT WEEK’S READING ASSIGNMENT:  Hebrews 11:1; Hebrews 11:6; Exodus 1: 8-16; Exodus 2:1-10; Matthew 2:16; Romans 8:28; Jeremiah 29:11

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