Releasing Resentments

Releasing Resentments

SERIES: Take off Those R.A.G.S.


2 Samuel 16:6-14 GNV

6    Shimei started throwing stones at David and his officials, even though David was surrounded by his men and his bodyguards.

7    Shimei cursed him and said, “Get out! Get out! Murderer! Criminal!

8    You took Saul’s kingdom, and now the Lord is punishing you for murdering so many of Saul’s family. The Lord has given the kingdom to your son Absalom, and you are ruined, you murderer!”

9    Abishai, whose mother was Zeruiah, said to the king, “Your Majesty, why do you let this dog curse you? Let me go over there and cut off his head!”

10  “This is none of your business,” the king said to Abishai and his brother Joab. “If he curses me because the Lord told him to, who has the right to ask why he does it?”

11  And David said to Abishai and to all his officials, “My own son is trying to kill me; so why should you be surprised at this Benjaminite? The Lord told him to curse; so leave him alone and let him do it.

12  Perhaps the Lord will notice my misery and give me some blessings to take the place of his curse.”

13  So David and his men continued along the road. Shimei kept up with them, walking on the hillside; he was cursing and throwing stones and dirt at them as he went.

14  The king and all his men were worn out when they reached the Jordan, and there they rested.


Resentments are the HURTS the heart HOLDS on to.


Ephesians 4:25-26 GNV25 No more lying, then! Each of you must tell the truth to the other believer, because we are all members together in the body of Christ. 26 If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin, and do not stay angry all day.


Hebrews 12:15 GNV – Guard against turning back from the grace of God. Let no one become like a bitter plant that grows up and causes many troubles with its poison.


I.            Shimei is HATEFUL

II.         Abishai is HARMFUL (v. 9)

Ecclesiastes 10:20 KJV – Curse not the king, no not in thy thought; and curse not the rich in thy bedchamber: for a bird of the air shall carry the voice, and that which hath wings shall tell the matter.



III.      David is HELPFUL       (vs. 10-14)


Ephesians 4:31-32 GNV31 Get rid of all bitterness, passion, and anger. No more shouting or insults, no more hateful feelings of any sort. 32 Instead, be kind and tender-hearted to one another, and forgive one another, as God has forgiven you through Christ.


How to release resentment:

1.      Remember WHO you are.           (v. 10)

2.      Remember WHAT you are.         (vs. 11-12)


Sometimes we are DESTROYED by praise and SAVED by criticism.


3.      Remember WHAT’S happening.            (v. 11)

4.      Remember WHERE you are headed.  (vs. 13-14)

5.      Remember WHOSE in control

2 Samuel 19:15-22 GNV15 On his way back the king was met at the Jordan River by the men of Judah, who had come to Gilgal to escort him across the river. 16 At the same time the Benjaminite Shimei son of Gera from Bahurim hurried to the Jordan to meet King David. 17 He had with him a thousand men from the tribe of Benjamin. And Ziba, the servant of Saul’s family, also came with his fifteen sons and twenty servants, and they arrived at the Jordan before the king. 18 They crossed the river to escort the royal party across and to do whatever the king wanted. As the king was getting ready to cross, Shimei threw himself down in front of him 19 and said, “Your Majesty, please forget the wrong I did that day you left Jerusalem. Don’t hold it against me or think about it any more. 20 I know, sir, that I have sinned, and this is why I am the first one from the northern tribes to come and meet Your Majesty today.” 21 Abishai son of Zeruiah spoke up: “Shimei should be put to death because he cursed the one whom the Lord chose as king.” 22 But David said to Abishai and his brother Joab, “Who asked your opinion? Are you going to give me trouble? I am the one who is king of Israel now, and no Israelite will be put to death today.”


Proverbs 18:21 KJV – Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.

Proverbs 24:16-18 GNV16 No matter how often honest people fall, they always get up again; but disaster destroys the wicked. 17 Don’t be glad when your enemies meet disaster, and don’t rejoice when they stumble.18 The Lord will know if you are gloating, and he will not like it; and then maybe he won’t punish them.

1 Peter 2:21-23 GNV21 It was to this that God called you, for Christ himself suffered for you and left you an example, so that you would follow in his steps. 22 He committed no sin, and no one ever heard a lie come from his lips. 23 When he was insulted, he did not answer back with an insult; when he suffered, he did not threaten, but placed his hopes in God, the righteous Judge.

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