Overcoming the Victim Mentality
John 5:6 KJV
6 When Jesus saw him lie, and knew that he had been now a long time in that case, he saith unto him, Wilt thou be made whole?
Many of our physical sickness, while real in our body, is MENTALLY conditioned.
2 Kings 20:1-7 NLT – 1 About that time Hezekiah became deathly ill, and the prophet Isaiah son of Amoz went to visit him. He gave the king this message: “This is what the Lord says: Set your affairs in order, for you are going to die. You will not recover from this illness.” 2 When Hezekiah heard this, he turned his face to the wall and prayed to the Lord, 3 “Remember, O Lord, how I have always been faithful to you and have served you single-mindedly, always doing what pleases you.” Then he broke down and wept bitterly. 4 But before Isaiah had left the middle courtyard, this message came to him from the Lord: 5 “Go back to Hezekiah, the leader of my people. Tell him, ‘This is what the Lord, the God of your ancestor David, says: I have heard your prayer and seen your tears. I will heal you, and three days from now you will get out of bed and go to the Temple of the Lord. 6 I will add fifteen years to your life, and I will rescue you and this city from the king of Assyria. I will defend this city for my own honor and for the sake of my servant David.’” 7 Then Isaiah said, “Make an ointment from figs.” So Hezekiah’s servants spread the ointment over the boil, and Hezekiah recovered!
The most important lesson to learn when attempting to help another person is that you cannot help a person AGAINST THEIR WILL.
Things must happen for anyone in trouble to be helped:
1. A DISSATISFACTION with where you are.
2. A DESIRE to do better
A victim is someone who is HELPLESS.
Psalm 10:14 NIV – But you, O God, do see trouble and grief; you consider it to take it in hand. The victim commits himself to you; you are the helper of the fatherless.
Psalm 10:14 NLT – But you see the trouble and grief they cause. You take note of it and punish them. The helpless put their trust in you. You defend the orphans.
A victim mentality is a mindset in which a person who was once a victim (helpless) continues old thought patterns of feeling POWERLESS even when the victimization has ended.
1 Corinthians 13:11 KJV – When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
Don’t be a prisoner of your PAST.
How to overcome the victim mentality:
I. What we tell ourselves often becomes a SELF FULFILLING PROPHESY.
II. Nothing blocks our way to wholeness like our own EVASION.
III. If you want to be whole, you have to CONFRONT yourself.
You have two options:
Psalm 32:5 NLT – Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, “I will confess my rebellion to the Lord.” And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone.
IV. Be aware of Confirmation Bias
A tendency in people to favor information that CONFIRMS their beliefs and REJECTS information that does not.
V. Make no provisions for RELAPSE.